How would I spend my last days with a loved one

Lawrence Dugan

Humanities 172

Professor Carreiro

10/23/1

When I Die

     Even though we broke up over twelve years ago, the person who I would choose to be with, if I knew I was going to die would be Donnetta. It was in the fall of 1998 when I met Donnetta; she was a very beautiful woman, and she is still beautiful today. She is a very kind and loving person. She loves modeling and traveling. Donnetta bought me nice things, like a shirt or a tie. Sometimes she would buy me a suit.  She loved to hug me and kiss me. She also loves to sing karaoke and dance. Donnetta loves to tell jokes and make people laugh. I remember one time she made me laugh and I couldn't stop laughing. We were in Florida at the zoo, and there was a gorilla in the cage. She called me and said, “Lawrence he got feet just like yours”. She could repair things including fixing the plumbing in the house or fixing her car.

     When I met Donnetta we would go the movies or go out dancing. We were doing things I had never done before. After dating her, I became homeless and jobless. I didn't want to be with her anymore. I was afraid to tell her about my homelessness and joblessness. When I was with her she would     always ask me what’s wrong. I didn't want her to know; I was afraid and I didn't want to lose her. Then, I prayed and got the courage to tell her. First, she asked me if I had family and I told her yes, but I didn't want to be a burden to them. After talking with me about my situation, she told me to look at her and I did. She said I could come and live with her. Going to live with her was hard to accept. I didn't have a place to stay and I didn't have a job. I felt very embarrassed, but I wanted her.

        When I began to live with her things were great. I had a place to live and food to eat. I needed a job, but didn't have money to look for a job. Donnetta gave me money every day to find employment. She knew I didn't have money. We would go out to eat at least three times a week. When I became employed I tried to give her the entire check, but she refused. She told me that I could give it to her and she would put it away. When it was time for us to go traveling she would pay greater portion of the trip. She would use some money from my paychecks. Donnetta was a very kind and loving person.   During my last day, I will go away and be with Donnetta on a soul train boat cruise. I would sing karaoke with Donnetta and dance as much as possible. I would walk along the decks and tell Donnetta how much she meant to me. And I would try to buy her something nice aboard the boat. I would give her a kiss good bye. I would close my eyes and die.

There was never a woman in my life other than my mother who treated me the way Donnetta did. I am grateful and honored to have had this woman in my life. I could never find the words, mere words couldn't begin to explain how much she meant to me. She made me feel brand new.  

D/HIV/AIDS

Lawrence Dugan Sr.

Professor Keith Carreiro

HUM 172

December 18, 2014

                                   http://www.freedommag.org/english/vol33I1/drug-addiction.htm

https://storify.com/knewago2013/stigma-of-addiction

First let us take a look at drug addiction. What is drug addiction? Drug addiction is a brain disease because of the changes and structure of the brain.  Once addict‘s become addict they find that they can’t stop. Some addicts try to stop on sheer willpower only to find that they can’t fight the compulsive obsession for more drugs. Some become addict and turn to God or some form of religion.

Taking drugs isn’t a form of death, some of us need to take drugs, but only as prescribed by physician. Drug addiction is a form of death. Once a person becomes addict they die physically, psychologically, and spiritually. 

The Sacred Art of Dying, quotes Sogyal Rinpoche who says:


"You die the way you live!" (Kramer pg. 198)

We must show empathy:

"Carefully and caringly listen to a dying person includes doing whatever you can to alleviate suffering (physical, emotional, spiritual), behaving compassionately and treating the person as a living being, respecting the patient’s wishes for information about his or her condition" (Kramer pgs. 198-199)

It important to listen to an active addict because we can learn how to help them.  In Tuesday's with Morrie, Morrie says:

"The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in" (Albom pg. 52)

http://www.sfgate.com/news/article/SQUALOR-IN-THE-STREETS-S-F-spends-more-than-2862722.php

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 1.What are some of the signs of  Drug Abuse? 2. Is environment a factors in Drug Abuse?

 3.What does thinking have to do with Drug Abuse?  4.What are some of the sign of Drug Abuse

 4. How can a person tell if they are addicted to Drugs  5. Is Alcohol a Drug?

 6. What does behavior have to do with Drug Abuse

 7.Can I use Drugs in safety? 8.What is a trigger concerning Drug Abuse?

 9.What would be a norm for Drug Abuse

10.How can a person become Drug free?

 Drug addiction can’t be cured, however there is a way out of active addiction. That way is to stop, and recovery is then possible. Drug addiction comes in many different forms. Many young people are deceived to believe that alcohol isn’t a drug. The alcoholic experiences the same traumas as the drug addict. The alcoholic's life becomes better when he or she stops drinking.

In Success Built to Last coauthors Jerry Porras, Stewart Emery, Mark Thompson write:

"Builders achieve enduring success when they pour themselves into constructive habits-limiting their “addictions” to the passions that serve them." (Porras, Emery, Thompson pg. 134)

When I was in active addiction I didn’t think there was any hope, but when I gave my best to wanting to stop then I began not only to see the light at the end of  the tunnel, I walked through that light. Having hope, hope that is seen isn’t hope. Romans 8:32

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HIV/AIDS what is HIV? HIV is Human Immunodeficiency Virus H stands for Human only humans can be infected with this disease. I Immunodeficiency weakens the immune systems destroying important blood cells that fight off diseases. V  Stands for virus. AIDS what is AIDS? Acquired Immune Deficiency HIV is the virus that leads to AIDS. Where did AIDS come from?   Drug addiction/ HIV/AIDS the reason I picked this topic was because I seen lots of old friends die with AIDS. There’s some old friends living with HIV, some have been living with HIV for over 20 years.

http://www.fastcoexist.com/1681650/a-reinvented-condom-you-actually-want-to-wear-coming-soon-from-the-gates-foundation

http://www.awaremed.com/drug-addiction/

Drug addiction HIV/AIDS affects all of us in one way or another. We need to have compassion for people that have these deceases. Thank God for a better understanding through education concerning people who are living with HIV/AIDS. Confusion, violence, substance abuse, misinformation are variables and factors in our community. We need to keep working toward resolutions, treatment,  preventions, in the knowledge of  Drug Addiction and HIV/AIDS. We can never have enough education, educating to evolve raise the awareness for healthy living. community results ,out comes and resolution. If we do little. no one has to do it all. It hard by the yard but a cinch by the inch.

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Planning a Death Ritual

 

Lawrence Dugan Sr. 

Humanities 172

Professor Keith Carriero

November 20,2014

 

 

 Home Going Celebration of the Life of Bro. Lawrence E. Dugan Sr.

Sunrise July 25, 1953                                     Sunset July 25, 2039

Services will be held at Greater Love Tabernacle

101 nightingale St. Dorchester Mass. 02124

   Saturday July 31, 2039 

          Viewing   9:00 am 11:00 am

         Service 11:00 am 12:00 pm

      ORDER   OF   SERVICE

Processional

Opening Hymn……At the cross

 Prayer…………………...Rev. Carmen Hardmon

New Testament………William E. Dickerson III

Old Testament………..Larry  Garvin Jr.

Hymn Selection………..Amazing Grace

Reading of  Obituary......Laquina Hardmon Fladger  

   Words of encouragement ..Apostle Simeon Frazier

Family + Friends tribute        1-2 minutes please

Solo ………………………..Kelly Price

Poem……………………….Natasha Dugan

Eulogy………..Pastor William E. Dickerson Jr.

Recessional

Repast will be at William E. Reed Auditorium/Prince Hall

24 Washington St. Dorchester Ma. 02121 

 

Obituary

Lawrence Dugan Sr.
Humanities 172
Professor Keith Carreiro                
 November 13, 2013 

^Obituary
 JULY 25,1953   JULY 25,2039

 ^{Lawrence Edward Dugan Sr. Minister, Community leader, Mentor, Mental Health Counselor, Recovery Counselor, Recovery Talk show host, loving father, grandfather, uncle, and friend.  0n Sunday July 25, 2039  Bro. Lawrence went home to be with the Lord in Boston, Massachusetts.}

^{He was 86. Bro. Lawrence was born in Pensacola, Florida on July, 25 1953 to the late Dillie Fletcher Dugan Jr. and the late Evangelist Alma Dugan Dickerson. Bro. Lawrence came to Boston in 1960 at the age of seven. He attended Boston public schools, and  Gordon Conwell school of theology . In 2010, Bro. Lawrence attend Cambridge College. In August 2013 he moved to Attleboro, Massachusetts, there he received his bachelor degree in Human Services. Bro. Lawrence grew up in Orchard Park housing Project Roxbury, Massachusetts, and in Dorchester, Massachusetts. He was an associate minister with Williams Temple Providence, Rhode Island, and Church of God in Christ in Boston and Unity Faith Tabernacle in Dorchester Massachusetts.}

^{He was a mentor to people like his brother Rev. William E. Dickerson Sr. Pastor of Greater Love Tabernacle in Boston Massachusetts, and his Sister Rev. Carmen Harmon Pastor of Unity Faith Tabernacle in Dorchester Massachusetts, Apostle  Simeon  J. Frazier Sr., Entertainer Bobby Brown , members in the R+B group New Edition, Loren Roberts PhD,  and many more. Bro. Lawrence was more of a minister in his community than in a church, reaching out to where ever he saw a need.  Leading his community and friends to Jesus Christ. He was very funny and he loved to see people laugh. A very sharp dresser therefore it was requested for him to participate in fashion shows. He coordinated fashion shows in Boston, Springfield and New York City. He had a natural swag that ladies liked. Bro. Lawrence never appeared to be better than or looked down upon anyone. He had a heart of gold he would try to help anyone. And at times he would forget to help himself, battling with life on life terms.} 

^{He was a Community activist in Boston and in Providence, Rhode Island. For fifty years he was involved in the 12 step programs of recovery, there he met a lot of friends. Bro. Lawrence was very creative, he was a blessing to the recovery community. Bro. Lawrence started a recovery talk show called Recovery Expressions. He loved to go jogging and go for long walks. He loved to meet people that were seeking treatment from their alcohol or drug problems. He loved to discuss the bible, and at times he act like he had all the answers. He loved to go on cruise ships. He would say being on a cruise ship must be the next best thing to heaven. Bro. Lawrence loved to travel and visit other cities, and at times he would share the word of God at Churches and with people on the streets. Lawrence, as his siblings would call him, loved to make them laugh by saying something funny about the other. He was a great cook, and at times he would boast about being the best cook in the family.} 

^{In 2022, he won the Mega Millions and moved back to Boston and brought a mansion in Brookline. He would have sober parties every night. He said he wanted to go out with a bang.  He leaves to cherish his memories two sons Lawrence Edward Dugan Jr. Richard Darrell Walker. One granddaughter Niamya James. Sisters and Brothers Rev.Carmen Marcella Hardmon, Lynette Katrina Dugan, Rev. William Edward Dickerson Sr. Christopher Jerome Dugan. He is the Brother of Moses Louis Rucker aka Bubba (deceased)  Melvin Arron Steele Sr. (deceased) Dillie Fletcher Dugan Jr. aka Deke (deceased)  We loved him, but God loved him more.}

My Obituary 2

Lawrence Dugan Sr.
Humanities 172
Professor Keith Carreiro                
 November 13, 2013 

^Obituary
 JULY 25,1953   JULY 25,2039

 ^{Lawrence Edward Dugan Sr. Minister, Community leader, Recovery Counselor, Recovery Talk show host, loving father, grandfather, uncle, and friend.  0n Sunday July 25, 2039  Bro. Lawrence went home to be with the Lord in Boston, Massachusetts.}

^{He was 86. Bro. Lawrence was born in Pensacola, Florida on July, 25 1953 to the late Dillie Fletcher Dugan Jr. and the late Evangelist Alma Dugan Dickerson.}

 

^{He was a Community activist in Boston and in Providence, Rhode Island. For fifty years he was involved in the 12 step programs of recovery, there he met a lot of friends. Bro. Lawrence was very creative, he was a blessing to the recovery community. Bro. Lawrence started a recovery talk show called Recovery Expressions.} 

^{He leaves to cherish his memories two sons Lawrence Edward Dugan Jr. Richard Darrell Walker. One granddaughter Niamya James. Sisters and Brothers Rev.Carmen Marcella Hardmon, Lynette Katrina Dugan, Rev. William Edward Dickerson Sr. Christopher Jerome Dugan. He is the Brother of Moses Louis Rucker aka Bubba (deceased)  Melvin Arron Steele Sr. (deceased) Dillie Fletcher Dugan Jr. aka Deke (deceased)  We loved him, but God loved him more.}